When parents get divorced or separated they usually know to tell their child that “Even though we no longer love each other, we still both love you very much and always will.” This is great to tell a child. But it’s not enough. The child also needs to be able to love each parent very much! This is your role as a reflective parent, in the case of divorce or separation. You must give your child the space and the encouragement to love you as well as your Ex, and to have a good relationship with both of you as much as possible and for as long as they want.