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The parent-child relationship becomes your child’s inner GPS

No matter what issue they are facing with their child parents always ask me “what should I do?”  I always tell them “No matter what you do, always keep your eye on the relationship”. This is a mantra for parents. The most important thing in parenting is the relationship you have with your child. Too many parents are focused on exactly what they should say or do when little Harper or Ryan or Sonia are not doing their homework or not brushing their teeth or not going to sleep. The point is you can get kids to cooperate in lots of ways.  But unless you have a good relationship,  their cooperation now will not necessarily improve their chances later on for long-term success as a person.
My whole mission in life these days is to encourage parents to pay more attention to the relationship they have with their child. There are other issues that are important to pay attention to such as how much TV is OK to watch, how much reading they should do every day, how to set limits on ‘bad words’ and how to foster empathy and morals in children. But none of these are as important as the relationship, because the relationship serves as the pathway into your child’s inner world, where life long learning takes place.  The relationship you create between you and your child, is internalized and becomes your child’s inner GPS for navigating through the up’s and down’s of life. The relationship-GPS will enable your child to set their goal and follow a route to get there, but also be able to recalculate when they veer off course or get lost.




As a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, I have been in private practice for over 35 years, with a special interest in parents and couples.


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