Skill #4 Reflect on the meaning of the behavior, your child’s and yours.
Reflecting means: understanding that people’s outward behavior is motivated by something in the mind- such as emotions, intentions, beliefs, desires, plans and goals.
Because every person’s mind is separate, private and has its own unique perspective…
Being reflective requires:
- Trying to understand your child’s viewpoint as well as your own
- Realizing we can’t know for certain what is going on in the mind of another
- Being able to tolerate the ambiguity and uncertainty in all our interactions
Being reflective will:
- Enhance empathy, understanding and caring
- Clarify misunderstandings
- Strengthen relationships
- Reduce hostility and aggression
- Allow for resolution of conflict