Skill #4 Reflect on the meaning of the behavior, your child’s and yours.

Reflecting means: understanding that people’s outward behavior is motivated by something in the mind- such as emotions, intentions, beliefs, desires, plans and goals.

Because every person’s mind is separate, private and has its own unique perspective…

Being reflective requires:

• Trying to understand your child’s viewpoint as well as your own
• Realizing we can’t know for certain what is going on in the mind of another
• Being able to tolerate the ambiguity and uncertainty in all our interactions

 Being reflective will:

• Enhance empathy, understanding and caring
• Clarify misunderstandings
• Strengthen relationships
• Reduce hostility and aggression
• Allow for resolution of conflict