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Keeping the Mind in Mind

Skill #4 Reflect on the meaning of the behavior, your child’s and yours.

Reflecting means: understanding that people’s outward behavior is motivated by something in the mind- such as emotions, intentions, beliefs, desires, plans and goals.

Because every person’s mind is separate, private and has its own unique perspective…

Being reflective requires:

  • Trying to understand your child’s viewpoint as well as your own
  • Realizing we can’t know for certain what is going on in the mind of another
  • Being able to tolerate the ambiguity and uncertainty in all our interactions

 Being reflective will:

  • Enhance empathy, understanding and caring
  • Clarify misunderstandings
  • Strengthen relationships
  • Reduce hostility and aggression
  • Allow for resolution of conflict




As a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, I have been in private practice for over 35 years, with a special interest in parents and couples.


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